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Thursday, March 30, 2006

Good Fences Make . . . 

This old adage doesn't really hold a lot of truth for me right now . . .

The tale of the traveling fence continues . . .     Since the original [name withheld] Fence Company refuses to stand behind their work and move the portion of the fence that they installed incorrectly, it seems that we will be forced to file a case in Court to reach a settlement on that issue.     In the meantime, to "keep-the-peace," as it were, with the beligerent neighbor who is being beyond unreasonable in this matter, my s.o., J. and B. spent most of Sunday afternoon moving as much of the erroneously installed portion of the offending side of the fence as they could.     They were able to get approximately over 1/3, but not quite 1/2, of the offending side relocated.     Today is the first day my s.o. has had to return to working on it.     He and B. and K.C. are going to try to get the rest of the offending side relocated today.

Granted, the original [name withheld] Fence Company shot themselves in the foot when they refused to correct their mistake.     We were going to let them go ahead and add the extension onto the back portion of the property (we had originally only fenced in halfway to the back property line).     We obtained a quote last Autumn on what the extension would cost, and when they made the proposal to move the existing incorrectly installed portion of fence and add the extension, the price had more than doubled to $4K for two side extensions that would still be using the same back fence section (just relocated), and the other relocation which should be at their expense for their screw-up of pulling off of the wrong pins initially.

And, whoever said "good fences make good neighbors" didn't live next door to this guy!

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Wednesday, March 29, 2006

Kicks-N-Giggles ... 

Okay.     I can't believe I'm actually even admitting this.     But, it is just too darned funny to keep to myself.     So, picture this . . . I'm having a phone conversation yesterday afternoon with a friend while I was driving to take care of an errand, and it is just digressing into total silliness.     Everything we said turned into giggles.     After thirty or forty minutes, I had already arrived at my destination and my friend was late leaving for his own errands.     This is when it got totally ridiculous!     The last couple of minutes turned into a two twelve year olds' giggle-fest, and went something like this:

"You hang up."
"No, you hang up."
"No, you first."
"No, you. giggle,giggle,giggle"
"No, you. giggle,giggle,giggle"
"You need to go; hang up."
"Okay, on three - 1, 2, you didn't hang up. giggle,giggle"
"Neither did you. giggle,giggle,giggle"
"So, you hang up."
"You too, I'm hanging up."
"Okay, let's hang up."
"Okay, I'm going, bye giggle - click"

How utterly nauseating!!!     I should be ashamed, shouldn't I?
It is a little funny though, don't ya think?

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Catch-Up Memes . . . 

Better late than never, right?

This week's Ten On Tuesday meme:
10 Things That People Do That Annoy You
(in no particular order) People who are guilty of the following:
  1.   Talking loudly on cellphones in public places (restaurants, grocers, etc.) or quiet places (doctor's offices, etc) - or worse - those danged walkie-talkie type cells, as if we want to hear both sides of the conversation - yelled - like they're twelve years old;
  2.   Not disciplining their bratty kids when they misbehave in public and annoy/physically accost/etc. others around them;
  3.   Not taking crying babies out of crowded rooms, restaurants, churches, movies, etc. when it is disrupting the rest of the people who are trying to do whatever it is they are there to do;
  4.   Cutting into line anywhere - whether on foot or in a car;
  5.   Constantly interrupting - as if what you are saying isn't as important as what they have to say;
  6.   Believing they are always right and never wanting to listen to anyone else's opinions, ideas, suggestions, etc. because they already have their minds made up that their way is the only way to go;
  7.   Unloading all of the crappy grunt jobs that they don't want to do with some lame excuse that they don't have time when the real reason is they don't want to have to confront people in situations that are stressful on matters that are volatile, so they pass the buck instead and give someone else the ulcers;
  8.   Say they'll call or come by at a certain time and they're always late - very late by hours, not minutes - or they don't show up/call at all until days later;
  9.   Let their dogs poop on your property instead of walking them around the block and/or cleaning up after them pursuant to City/County and HOA ordinances;
  10.   Sitting at stop lights waiting for them to change to ANOTHER shade of green!

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This week's Monday Madness meme:

The Bag Sachel Wallet Meme

1.   Do you use a bag/sachel/wallet?    Yes.     I've been carrying a small black leather Harley-Davidson studded saddlebag-style purse for almost a year (it was a get-well gift when I broke my ankle last year).     But, I just bought a new black leather Harley-Davidson purse on Monday that is a different style and a bit larger than the last, so I have been carrying it for two days now.     I also carry a black leather briefcase, and a black leather camera case.

2.   Do you use the same bag/sachel/wallet everyday or change depending on your outfit?    Unless it is a black-tie, ultra-conservative, gallery opening, etc.-type event, my H-D bag can handle any other everyday occasion and works with most of my other outfits.

3.   What do you carry in your bag/sachel/wallet?    A leather H-D wallet, a leather H-D (joint) checkbook, a leather H-D zipper change-purse, a 2nd (individual) checkbook, a pen, a small notebook, an Alabama Crimson Tide pewter elephant keychain with an assortment of grocer, retail, etc. discount key fob cards, small cosmetic bag, cell phone, PDA, iPod.

4.   Do you check and change the contents of your bag/sachel/wallet before you go anywhere specific or do you take everything everywhere?    I take everything everywhere, unless I'm going to a black-tie event.     In that case, I carry an evening bag with ID, a credit card, cash, lipstick and a compact.

5.   How often do you have a good clean out of your bag/sachel/wallet?    Weekly, to sort and file receipts.

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This week's Unconscious Mutterings meme:

Unconscious Mutterings - Week 164

  1.  Glass castle::  Shouldn't (people who live in);
  2.  Preserved::  Pickled;
  3.  Jealousy::  & Murder;
  4.  Territory::  Wilderness;
  5.  Coffee::  Good To The Last Drop (Maxwell House);
  6.  Stephen::  King;
  7.  Slut::  Whore;
  8.  Dynamic::  Charismatic;
  9.  Daybreak::  Sunrise;
  10.  Dew::  Do The;

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Tuesday, March 28, 2006

"Friends Are Forevah" 



GRITS Friends Are Forevah: A Southern-Style Celebration of Women.     Deborah Ford's latest book which was recently published by Dutton Adult, ISBN: 0525949186, available through, contains a contribution entitled "Lucy & Ethel," on Page 112 written by me, and is a loving tribute to an old friend who I still miss very much.

Forgive the slightly over-indulgent display of self-promotion . . .

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Monday, March 27, 2006

New Friends . . . 

I know I haven't checked-in for almost a week . . . but, oh, what a week it has been . . .     It is sometimes so amazing to me how subtle, almost unperceivable, "connections" between two people can be so instantaneous and electric!     It is especially amazing when you discover that you click on so many different levels and feel as if you've known one another all of your lives.     Spontaneous friendships are rare, but when they do occur, they are astounding.     And, this one came at just the right time - and I think the feeling is mutual.    :-)

Betty Boop

A great big THANKS to the Zen Wizard for "letting" me steal the cool Betty Boop graphic from him (even if he didn't realize it).    I'm a huge Betty Boop fan!

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Tuesday, March 21, 2006

Admiration Society . . . 

I admit it.     Even though I'm still working (and meeting most deadlines...), I have lost my voice.     No, not literally, but that 'figurative voice' that is expressed through creativity and artistic talent.     I feel as if I'm simply "going-thru-the-motions," but not really tapping my true potential.     Is my muse, perhaps, on extended holiday?

Consider the ever-upbeat, bubbly personality that exudes from the posts at Windfall Woman's blog.     She has the ability to always bring a smile to your face when you visit her site.     Or, Zen Wizard, who has a way of taking the ordinary and finding the most obscure tid-bits and twisting them into something totally hilarious.     And, my dear friend Grey Biker who I can always depend on to mix his somewhat 'racy' humor with terrific stories and wonderful slices of life.     There's also my dear friend Bonez who finds some of the most amazing and unusual things to share with us, and is a terrific writer when he chooses to use his own words.     Steel Cowboy brings a homespun charm to his site, woven with heartwarming stories that always have a special way of touching your soul.     Then, there's David Amulet who combines his sharp wit and twist-of-phrase to 'make-you-think' while still making you laugh.     And, my close, personal friend Patricia Paris who is not only a three-time published author, but a highly regarded syndicated columnist with a down-home country charm.     T Marie who, regardless of what her post might be, always ends each one with five "Silver Linings" for the day.     Then, there's Deb who has a wonderful eye, and shares her photos with us on her site.     And, Tech who has a glorious grasp of the language and captures thoughts with such beauty and eloquence.

Of course, the rich and famous also don't mind getting into the blogging act.     Probably one of the most famous bloggers is Wil Wheaton.     Then, there is RuPaul who blogs about any, and everything that's happening in her busy life.     Jeff Bridges has a very unique blog with lots of scribbles, hand-written notes and drawings.     Kevin Smith keeps a fairly updated blog as well.     And, Rosie O'Donnell's blog, like herself, is strangely controlled, yet unpredictable.

I admire all of these bloggers for their dedication to, and continuity of, their sites.     I feel as if my blogs are rather schizophrenic in nature.     I'm literally "all-over-the-page," so to speak, in my postings, as I can't seem to find a particular theme or subject matter that I want to dedicate my sites to in a strict fashion.     I'm just not that linear in my thinking.     That just seems so confining and stifling to creativity.     Just another example of "right-brained" thinking, a typical personality trait of an artistic type - but, frustrating to all of those linear, concrete left-brained (anal-retentive) types that encounter me.     Believe me, I've frustrated quite a few people throughout my life (sometimes intentionally)!

As bloggers, do you sometimes feel as if you're struggling with "writer's block?"     How do you get past it?

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10 Things You Worry About 

This week's Ten On Tuesday meme:

(in no particular order)
  1.   My parents (health and aging);
  2.   Our business (profitability and continued success);
  3.   My studio (networking, booking shows, meeting deadlines);
  4.   A recent property dispute with a neighbor (very ugly);
  5.   A distorted body image
    (fashion, plastic surgeons and advertising have us convinced that we're all imperfect);
  6.   Aging
    (there's no such thing as "gracefully" - it's all kickin'-&-screamin');
  7.   Child abuse, neglect, child pornography and children's rights;
  8.   Animal abuse, neglect, failure to neuter/spay and animal rights;
  9.   Environmental issues, lack of recycling, lack of use of alternatives to chemical products, etc.;
  10.   (Sadly, too much about) What others think of me ...

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Monday, March 20, 2006

Monday Madness 

This week's Monday Madness meme:

1.   When driving in my car, my radio station is usually tuned to no local stations - I have XM Satellite and I surf between several pre-programmed XM stations.

2.   When I turn my television on, even if I'm not really paying close attention to it, it's usually on channel no channel - usually on previously recorded shows on DVR or DVDs from

3.   If I owned a pet, I would own a n/a, because I do own pets - 5 cats and 3 dogs.

4.   I own a HP printer. I bought it because it is a printer / fax / scanner / copier - which I needed for my business.

5.   You can find all kinds of books in my bookshelves, but mostly this type: photography, writing, and forensics (and so much more - the library includes a studio/business library in my office and a personal library in our family room, with several boxes of books still not unpacked from the last move).

6.   I take about 50-150 pictures every month.

7.   I blog about 30-60 times a month (between all of my blogs).

8.   I've been really busy painting lately.

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Criminal Minds Trivia 

Robert Oxton Bolt once wrote,
"A belief is not merely an idea the mind possesses;
it is an idea that possesses the mind

I'm hooked on Criminal Minds.     It is just one of the many crime, forensic, law and/or police dramas that I am addicted to (and thankful for a duel-DVR recording system).     I recently received an e-mail from the staff at the Criminal Minds TV fansite, who had read a recent post in my blog about the show.     They requested a link from my blog to their site (which I was happy to provide), and I also joined their forum.     On one of the message boards was a question about the music on the show.     The show has had some great music thus far, and I have known many of the ones that have been featured.     I posted those on the forum but, for those who do not belong to the forum but may be interested, I'll also post them here.     Mandy Patinkin's character, Special Agent Jason Gideon usually begins and ends each episode with a historical quote - often obscure - that ties in with the episode's plot and music.     The way in which the quotes, music and storyline of the show are woven together is quite unique and philosophical in nature.

Confucius once said,
"When you seek revenge,
dig two graves

And, now, for the lyrically-minded:

Extreme Agressor - 09/22/05
"Penitentiary" Citizen Cope
"Rock Music" The Pixies

Compulsion - 09/28/05
"Every Day Is Exactly the Same" Nine Inch Nails

Plain Sight - 10/12/05
"Doctor My Eyes" Jackson Browne

L.D.S.K. - 11/02/05
"Tears and Rain" James Blunt

Derailed - 11/23/05
"Wrecking Ball" Gillian Welch

Popular Kids - 11/30/05
"Make Slow (Full-Length)" Agents of the Sun
"Make Tomorrow" Peter Gabriel

Blood Hungry - 12/14/05
"Lullaby" Martyrs and Poets
"My Father's Voice (Live)" Judith Owen

What Fresh Hell? - 01/11/06
"When the Music's Not Forgotten" Deadman

Poison - 01/18/06
"Club Foot" Kasabian
"Wishful Thinking" Wilco

Riding the Lightning - 01/25/06
"Cello Suite 1" Bach

The Tribe - 03/08/06
"Inna Godda Davida" Iron Butterfly
"The Scientist" Coldplay

Unfinished Business - 03/01/06
"I Don't Wanna Know" Sheryl Crow

Albert Einstein said,
"The question that sometimes drives
me hazy: am I or the others crazy

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Everybody Hurts . . . 

This week's Monday's A B*tch meme:

1.   What's the most excruciating physical pain you've ever experienced?     Car accident when a man ran a red light and broad-sided our car, my side, breaking my right pelvic bone and most of my left ribs.     I was completely covered in glass from head to toe and confined to a hospital bed, unable to move, because any sudden moves could cause a rib to slip and puncture my lungs or heart.     I was told that I may not walk again due to nerve damage in my back and neck.

2.   Are you afraid of needles?     I don't like to see them, but I don't freak totally out about them.

3.   How do you remove a band-aid?     Peel it slowly or rip it off quick?     It all depends on how bad the boo-boo is.

4.   Have you ever broken a bone?     Yes, but not until I was twenty-four.     But, when I did, I really did it up bad!     Since then, I broke my ankle just last spring.

5.   Do you believe in the "no pain, no gain" theory of fitness?    Explain.     To a degree, but not to the extent that you suffer the next day - that only leads to a quick burn-out and not wanting to continue with the program.     But, pushing a little, and increasing gradually, is definitely the way to go.

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Sunday, March 19, 2006

Unconscious Mutterings - Week 163 

This week's Unconscious Mutterings meme:
  1.  Sugar rush::  Jitters;
  2.  Chemical::  Reaction;
  3.  Suspension::  Without Pay;
  4.  Defending::  Your Rights;
  5.  Conference::  Call;
  6.  Dance::  With The Devil;
  7.  Weather::  Channel;
  8.  Fuel::  Gauge;
  9.  Heartbreak::  Ridge;
  10.  Insult::  Comic.

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Wednesday, March 15, 2006

Wednesday Mind Hump 

This week's Wednesday Mind Hump meme:

Friday is St. Patrick's Day.     That means it's time for some Irish-related questions for the Mind Hump!

1.    What's your favorite Lucky Charms marshmallow shape?     And do you ever eat the cereal part of it too?
A.    I'm not a fan of sugar-laden cereals with rock-hard marshmallow candies inside.     If I were forced to pick a shape, it would, of course, have to be the green clover - but, I would never eat anything that came out of a box of Lucky Charms (the box is probably the healthiest part)!

2.    How do you celebrate St. Patrick's Day?
A.    Wearing of the green, calling all of my Irish relatives to wish them a Happy St. Paddy's Day, meeting friends at a local Irish pub to celebrate . . . and, whatever else might strike my fancy on such a special day.

3.    What's your favorite Irish or Celtic song or artist?
A.    I love true Irish music and musical instruments, but don't have a particular song or artist that I would consider my favorite.

The last question comes from famous Irish comic Jerry O'Seinfeld
4.    Corned beef - ya got beef, but where's the corn?     What is the deal?
A.    I'm not a huge Seinfeld fan, nor am I a huge corned beef fan, either.     I'll skip passing judgment on the odd name for a deli meat.     I'd rather have a smoked turkey and provolone.

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Tuesday, March 14, 2006

10 Things You'd Tell Other People To Try 

This week's Ten On Tuesday meme:

  1.   Sushi;
  2.   Harley-Davidson Motorcycles;
  3.   Acupuncture;
  4.   Casino-gambling (not to excess);
  5.   30 SPF Sunblock;
  6.   Deep-Tissue Massage;
  8.   Franklin-Covey Planner System;
  9.   Renting a Beach-House for a week each year;
  10.   Renting a Mountain-Cabin for a week each year.

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Monday, March 13, 2006

Monday Madness - Monday 

This week's Monday Madness meme:

Using the letters in the word 'MONDAY,' list things that you do (or would like to do) in your spare time.

M ... Meditate.
O ... On-line Time.
N ... Nap.
D ... Daydream.
A ... Art, Create.
Y ... Yak with long-distance friends.

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Sunday, March 12, 2006

Unconscious Mutterings - Week 162 

This week's Unconscious Mutterings meme:

  1.  Displacement::  Associative;
  2.  Grease monkey::  Mechanic;
  3.  Vacancy::  No;
  4.  Conquer::  Your Fears;
  5.  Payroll::  Taxes;
  6.  Personal::  & Confidential;
  7.  Housewife::  Diary of a Mad;
  8.  Lateral::  Move;
  9.  Tissue::  Paper;
  10.  Multiplication::  Tables.

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Friday, March 10, 2006

Book Review: To Protect The Innocent 

MarkLockeMills  To Protect The Innocent by Mark Locke Mills

Mark Locke Mills' first book doesn't pull any punches.    He visualized a hard-hitting and powerful storyline and refused to sugarcoat the contents to attempt a more marketable product when he finished his last page.     In doing so, he turned the spotlight on a subject that many would prefer stayed hidden from the light.    To Protect The Innocent looks at the story of the "modern American plague."
Pedophilia has become America's dirty little secret.     No one wants to talk about it and pedophiles are literally getting away with murder.     The authorities can't catch them, the courts are too soft on them, and no one is doing anything about it.     No one, that is except Dan Forester ...

If this blurb from the back cover doesn't grab your interest, the rest of the book probably isn't for you either.

Mills, currently a college professor in Minnesota, spent 13 years as a journalist, and covered many stories concerning child molestation.     It was the time he spent as a Des Moines, Iowa television journalist, covering the disappearance of Johnny Gosch 20 years earlier that led to the writing of a novel about the abduction of a child.     Gosch was 12 when he was believed to have been abducted near his West Des Moines home.     This was one of the first missing child cases to make national attention.     Johnny Gosch has never been found; no charges were filed; and the mystery has become state lore in Iowa.

Mark found that the crime of child abuse is much more prevalent and pervasive that most people even seem to realize.     He compiled statistics from numerous sources and used actual statistical data woven into his fictional storyline to stress the severity of the growing number of cases every year.     Of the alarming statistics, just a few that should keep you up at night are:
  •   90% of child sex abuse cases are never reported
  •   The average sex offender is arrested for only 1 out of 30 crimes committed
  •   Just over 1 million children a year are sexually abused in the United States
  •   Approximately 95% of the child victims are molested by someone they know
  •   60% of convicted sex offenders are currently on probation or out on parole

The book alternates between several points of view, including the abused and murdered child's mother and father in Wheaton, Maryland, a pedophile in Ft. Wayne, Indiana, a TV reporter in Omaha, Nebraska, New York City police officers, and FBI research agents in Quantico, Virginia, as well as several other different locations throughout the country as the story progresses.     Many of the characters were developed out of composites of subjects that Mark Mills encountered during the Gosch case in Iowa and others that Mark worked on over the years.

At times, it was a difficult read, since the alternating points of view and location changed rapidly, sometimes every three or four paragraphs within a single chapter.     You may find yourself having to backtrack to make sure you know exactly who you are, and in what location you are finding yourself in at that very moment.

There is no simple way to outline the book.     To try would be to say, "... The novel is about a couple, Dan and Jan Forester, who lose their son, Mike, to a child molester.     The mother goes into a deep depression and the father has a bout with alcoholism.     Eventually the mother goes on the speaker circuit and the accurate facts and figures about pedophilia come out through her speeches.     Meanwhile, the father wages a one-man war against child molestation ..."

The truth is that the complexity of the six distinct storylines that divaricate completely with nothing to bind them together with the exception of the underlying evil that is child abuse, child pornography, and pedophilia is the story.     And, it is those six distinct stories that are being affecting by such evil, but still somehow meanders through the course of the book, to converge one-by-one in an overlapping convoke to the empyrean and final show-down.

In addition to the main characters you are introduced to in the book, the secondary characters and peripherals are also some characters you won't soon forget.     As you zigzag across the country, stepping in and out of Dan Forester's shoes as he tracks down child molesters to deliver his own brand of vigilante justice, viewing the world through the eyes of an upstanding citizen (and closet pedophile) who has finally found his place in the world; pulling together overwhelmingly staggering facts and figures for your speaking engagements to raise awareness about child abuse, interviewing parents, children, and molesters for a funded documentary you are working on for public television on child abuse; heading up the FBI team that is trying to track down someone who is systematically killing child molesters; or grow increasing frustrated as you spend night after night on stake-out trying to find enough evidence to bring down a suspect for child pornography and selling children as slaves to wealthy overseas dignitaries, imagine what happens when these six worlds collide.

Mills brought a very difficult subject out of the shadows and into the light, where it needs to be.     We can't continue to be a nation that will address other issues but prefers to keep our collective heads in the sand when it comes to issues regarding the physical, sexual and emotional abuses of our children.     As someone who has worked directly with law enforcement, legal agencies and mental health agencies on many matters, which, sadly, often involved children and child abuse, I applaud the work Mark has done to see that this book, To Protect The Innocent, was written and published.

Reviewer's note:    In several sections of the book, many of Mark's characters make reference to the use of, or their support of, chemical castration.     Personally, I am not an advocate of either chemical or medical castration for the following reasons:    The sexual rape of anyone (child or adult) has less to do with sex, but everything to do with power and control.     Castration would only prevent one type of object (genitals) from being used for rape.     It would not prevent other items (bottles, broom handles, iron bars, weapons of opportunity, etc.) from being used.

Also, with chemical castration, the person has to submit to regular injections of the Depo-Provera once a month to keep the levels constant in their system.     If a person does not get his shots once a month and/or if a person takes steroids (which will counteract the effects of the Depo-Provera) the castration is voided, and the person's testosterone level will be the same as before the Depo-Provera shots were started, or higher if steroids are also in use.     This "method" of punishment/terms of probation isn't very effective in preventing repeat offenders.


Susan Reno-Gilliland is the proprietor of "This Southern Belle's Life," from which many diverse projects have developed.     She is a published writer, columnist, photographer, artist and dreamer.     "Darlin', don't ever take a Southern woman for granted!" [tm]

Review written for and published
on March 04, 2006

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Wednesday, March 08, 2006

Friendship, Southern Style ... 

GRITS  Deborah Ford's latest book, GRITS Friends Are Forevah: A Southern-Style Celebration of Women was recently published, and I received my personal copy from Deborah today.     On Page 112 is a segment called "Lucy & Ethel," and it was contributed to Deborah's book by yours truly.

Deborah asked me to contribute something to her new book about a year and a half ago.     I'm anxious to read the finished product.     It looks delightful -- a fun read -- much like her other books.     She is such a sweet person, and the epitome of a southern belle!

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Monday, March 06, 2006

Questions . . . 

Questions found at Cat's Sweet Memes site

For some strange reason, several of the numbers are missing - perhaps 'lost' along the way as the meme has been passed around.

01.  Put an "x" in the parentheses for those things you have done in your life:
( ) Smoked a cigarette cigarette, no
(x) Drank so much you threw up don't ask
( ) Crashed a friend's car
( ) Stolen a car technically, no
(x) Been in love
( ) Been dumped.
( ) Been laid off/fired
(x) Quit your job
( ) Been in a fist fight
( ) Snuck out of your parent's house
(x) Had feelings for someone who didn't have them back
( ) Been arrested technically, no
( ) Gone on a blind date
(x) Lied to a friend.
( ) Skipped school
(x) Seen someone die yes, three people
( ) Been to Canada
( ) Been to Mexico
(x) Been on a plane
(x) Been lost
(x) Been on the opposite side of the country
(x) Gone to Washington, DC
(x) Swam in the ocean Atlantic, Pacific, Caribbean
(x) Felt like dying
(x) Cried yourself to sleep
(x) Played cops and robbers don't ask
(x) Recently colored with crayons
(x) Sang karaoke
( ) Paid for a meal with only coins
(x) Done something you told yourself you wouldn't don't ask, pi
(x) Made prank phone calls
( ) Laughed until some kind of beverage came out of your nose
(x) Caught a snowflake on your tongue.
(x) Danced in the rain
( ) Written a letter to Santa Claus
(x) Been kissed under the mistletoe
(x) Watched the sun rise with someone you care about or love
(x) Blown bubbles
(x) Made a bonfire on the beach
( ) Crashed a party
(x) Gone roller-skating
( ) Ice-skating
02.  for some strange reason, #2 is missing from the list ...
03.  Any nicknames?    Yes - Kitty, Miss Kitty, Southern Belle, Lil Bit, Small Fry.
04.  Mother's name?    Mama.
05.  What is your favorite drink?    Herbal Tea.
06.  Tattoos?    Yes, two.
07.  Body piercing?    Just ears - two holes/right, three holes/left.
08.  How much do you love your job (1-10).    Overall: 8. Lately: 5.
09.  Birth Place?    Homestead AFB, FL.
10.  Favorite vacation spot?    St. Lucia.
11.  for some strange reason, #11 is missing from the list ...
12.  Ever steal any traffic signs?    Yes.
13.  for some strange reason, #13 is missing from the list ...
14.  A, B, C, D, DD cup size?    DD.
15.  2 Door or 4 Door?    2-Door Convertible.
16.  Salad dressing?    Catalina or Honey French - or - Japanese Ginger Soy.
17.  Favorite pie?    Fresh Key Lime - or - Fresh Cherry Cheesecake.
18.  Favorite number?    Seven.
19.  Favorite movie?    Casablanca.
20.  Favorite holiday?    Thanksgiving.
21.  for some strange reason, #21 is missing from the list ...
22.  Favorite food?    Hibachi Chicken
23.  Favorite day of the week?    Monday
24.  Favorite brand of body soap?    Aveda Rosemary Mint Body Wash
25.  for some strange reason, #25 is missing from the list ...
26.  Toothpaste?    Sensodyne w/Extra Whiteners
27.  Favorite smell?    amaretto (candles, liqueurs, lotions, etc.)
28.  What do you do to relax?    Visit my masseuse, go shopping, take a day-trip, visit friends, watch a movie, listen to music, do absolutely nothing, take a cat-nap.
29.  How do you see yourself in 10 years?    Not looking ten years older, more established in my chosen fields, able to travel more, published more, with a more established and recognized name in literary/photographic circles.
30.  What do you do when you are bored?    Take an "Artist's Date" (from Julia Cameron's The Artist's Way book), visit a library or museum, surf the web, call long-distance friends, catch up on e-mails and snail-mail correspondence (or see #28).

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Personal DNA Report 

My Personal DNA Report

You are an Attentive Dreamer

About You
You are a Dreamer

Your combination of abstract thinking, appreciation of beauty, and cautiousness makes you a DREAMER.

You often imagine how things could be better, and you have very specific visions of this different future.

Beauty and style are important to you, and you have a discerning eye when it comes to how things look.

Although you often think more broadly, you prefer comfort to adventure, choosing to stay within the boundaries of your current situation.

Your preferences for artistic works are very refined, although you vastly prefer some types and styles to others.

Though your dreams are quite vivid, you are cautious in following up on them.

You are aware of both your positive and negative qualities, so that your ego doesn't get in your way.

A sense of vulnerability sometimes holds you back, stifling your creative tendencies.

You're not one to force your positions on a group, and you tend to be fair in evaluating different options.

You're not afraid to let your emotions guide you, and you're generally considerate of others' feelings as well.

If you want to be different:

Your imagination is a wonderful asset, but don't just dream—be bold enough to take action and explore new things!

Consider a wider range of details and possibilities when thinking about the present and the future—don't be too set in your ways.

How You Relate to Others
You are Attentive

Because you like spending time with others, understand their feelings, and often know what is best for them, you are ATTENTIVE.

Some people are merely concerned about others, but you take action, helping people when you have the opportunity.

Although you care about others, you are hesitant to trust them to act in the best way on their own.

You don't let your concerns with people go unnoticed: if someone has hurt your feelings, that person will hear about it.

People energize and excite you—you love being in large groups and just having fun.

You also learn a lot about yourself by talking things out with others, even if you don't always share things that are important to you.

Although you are social by nature and are not hesitant to express yourself, you have a strong sense of right and wrong.

Understanding the dynamics of a situation is an important skill that you have, and you often intervene to clarify things for others.

If you want to be different:

You care about people, but finding the ones you can truly trust will allow you to get closer to them.

While you have strong opinions about what is right and wrong in the world, you risk coming across as judgmental—be sure to consider different perspectives when voicing your opinion.

Your Personality Chart

Confidence 26
Openness 16
Extroversion 66
Empathy 50
Trust in others 16
Agency 78
Masculinity 6
Femininity 92
Spontaneity 46
Attention to style 60
Authoritarianism 36
Earthy/Imaginative 18
Aesthetic/Functional 78

Glossary - Personality Chart Terms

Confidence - How confident you are about expressing your opinions and accomplishing things.

Openness - Your degree of openness to new experiences.

Extroversion - How outgoing you are. High means you are extroverted. Low means you are introverted.

Empathy - How much you understand (and experience) the emotions and thoughts of others.

Trust in Others - The general faith you have in other people; how much you think people are good at heart.

Authoritarianism - Your adherence to the social order and how much you favor obedience.

Masculinity - The degree of your stereotypically-male traits.

Femininity - The degree of your stereotypically-female traits.

Spontaneity - How comfortable you are with making plans at the last minute.

Attention to Style - How aware you are of fashion trends. How much effort you put in to your own style.

Agency - How much you believe you determine your own outcomes. High means you believe that you have control over your life. Low means you believe that other factors—such as chance, fate, and powerful others—influence your life.

Imaginative/Earthy - Your prefererence for concrete or abstract things. Low means you prefer abstract, theoretical things. High means you prefer detail-oriented, practical things.

Functional/Aesthetic - Your prefererence for beauty or form. Low means you care more about how something works. High means you care more about how something looks.

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Sunday, March 05, 2006

Unconscious Mutterings - Week 161 

This week's Unconscious Mutterings meme:

  1.  Upgrade::  Software;
  2.  Happy ending::  (s), So Much For My ...;
  3.  Stale::  Bread;
  4.  Tripping::  Out;
  5.  Working::  for the Weekend;
  6.  Explicit::  Materials;
  7.  Happy place::  Going to my ...;
  8.  Tornado::  Destruction;
  9.  Medication::  Over-;
  10.  Muppet::  -s Take Mahattan.

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Saturday, March 04, 2006

What A Week! 

You wouldn't B-E-L-I-E-V-E this week ... well, maybe you would.     But, it has been hectic, electric and, it's over already.

No time to explain now - just a quick "HELLO" to say that I haven't forgotten all my blogosphere friends ...

~ Kitty

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Spring Fever ... 

This week's Saturday8 meme:

sat-8 :: spring fever

1.   have you gone on spring break before?     if so, where, and if not, why?     No, I never really got into the whole "spring-break" mentality, and I don't feel as if I missed out on anything.     I've traveled extensively, and had a blast, so ...

2.   do you take a spring vacation?     Sometimes.     It all depends on schedules, opportunities, options, etc.

3.   if you had (or have) a spring vacation, what would be your first choice to do?    skiing in vermont?    a week in the keys?     Definitely a beach - east coast, west coast, Caribbean - doesn't matter, as long as there is sand, surf and sun!

4.   in your home/apartment, do you do spring cleaning?     To a degree, but not in the 1950's term of spring cleaning.     There is a decluttering and a weeding out, tossing out, and donating of unused items, clothes, etc.

5.   in your area, what is your weather generally like in mid-march?     It depends - some years it is in the 50's, some years it is in the 70's, some years it is raining, thirteen years ago we had a freak thunder-snow that dropped over 2 feet of dry snow in mid-March.     So, there's no way to predict March weather in the South.

6.   spring is my favourite season ... do you share my sentiment, prefer another season?     I like Spring, but my favorite season is Autumn.

7.   do you do anything differently in spring than you do any other time of the year? (plant flowers/garden, take off the snow tires, etc.)     I drop the top on my convertible, I move my plants back out onto the 3-season sunporch, we grill more meals outside, the three dogs get a buzz-cut, and we plan more short and long trips on the Harley.

8.   what are your plans for this weekend?     I have to fulfill two article deadlines by Saturday.     Sunday, we are meeting seven friends for brunch after church.     In between, there are tons of little incidentals that have to be handled before the weekend is over, and maybe I can even squeeze a movie in at some point.

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